To find good, expect good
July 27, 2016 2 Comments
This is what I remember from time to time:
One Sunday, it was Youth Sunday, and the MYF (Methodist Youth Fellowship) were in charge of the service, one of the leaders gave the message. Like the many message-givers before her, she began with a story. The story was about a person in a village who was welcoming a newcomer.
“How are the people here?” the newcomer asked.
“What were the people like where you came from?” the villager asked in return.
“Hateful bunch,” he replied. “I didn’t like any of them. Someone was always in somebody else’s business or starting something. That’s why I left.”
“That’s what you’ll find here,” the villager told him.
Why did the villager tell the newcomer that? The wise villager knew that people tend to see what they expect to see, and that newcomer would be comparing the people in this village to those he had left. You see, he was always seeing the negative, and that’s what he would be looking for.
That message stuck with me more than most messages I’ve heard from adult professionals. People find what they are looking for.
This is what I keep seeing in my Facebook feed:
“Why are people so awful!”
“Republicans are just dumb.”
Something about “… effing libtards …”
“My family is the worst … (something about backstabbers).”
“The world is full of sorry people.”
These are paraphrases or compilations of things I’ve seen in recent days. I want to reach out and tell them, “You will find what you are looking for, so go look for good, look for peace. Better still, do good and create peace.”
Is it that hard to look for things to feel gratitude for throughout the day? Or do they not realize they are responsible for their own happiness? Just like anything else, we are not entitled to happiness without working for it. However, this kind of work can bring joy.
I started keeping a bullet journal in January, and within a month or two, I added a couple pages each month for daily gratitudes. And I tell ya, some days I have three or four things to record and try to write concisely so I don’t use up all the space before the month is over, and SOME DAYS, I can think of nothing. I think I may have written, “I got up today.” once, or something to that effect. But I keep recording that stuff.
This is what a friend shared on his timeline yesterday, and one of the reasons I don’t give up on social media and the great deal of negativity – there is still gold out there.
Thank you, Mike Peercy:
I saw grace today…
(the last several days really)
…in a team believing in their leader even when he’s not his best
…in lunch with no agenda but brotherhood
…in a family working as a team to simply encourage their neighbors
…in honest talk when polite conversation would have been easier
…in wisdom gained from life and loss shared over a lunch long overdue
…in a gentle rain experienced on the porch with a good friend and a great cup of coffee
…in the faithfulness of a friend to make sure all is well
“And from his fullness we have all received, grace upon grace.”
However you want to practice looking for good, start now. Find a way to record it. Doing so makes it more solid, more memorable, more real and fixed.
- Put it in the form of a poem, like Mike did.
- Write it down and post it on a mirror, so you can see it.
- Draw a representation of it in a sketchbook.
- Keep a journal.
- Note gratitudes on your calendar, digital or analog.
- Record it with an app. Heck, create a podcast.
- Make a construction paper chain with gratitudes on each link. How quickly might it grow as looking for good becomes a habit?
- Write a weekly blog post about things that make you happy, like another friend of mine does.
- Tell the person in whom you found the good.
- Tell others you found good.
- Post the good stuff on Facebook or Twitter or Instagram.
- Leave notes for others with real compliments or thank yous.
The list is really endless. Go find the good in people, in your community, in your family and loved ones. Ain’t none of us perfect, but we all are worthy.